solimor

Tommy you must understand that at the time the book was written all marriages was arranged by birth, it wasn't a free world as the one we have today, it was a father chose to find a husband for his daughter and another father Honer to accept for his Son.

Muslim world is still there and it not really in a good way.

You can live you life as you want but a word of advise, Being friends doesn't give understand off what you going into, I understand the seek for a soul-mate and I fund my, I new when was still friends, but we still needed to take small steps, (well small but fast). You truly don't no a person before you live whit her/him, and understand how its to be around and respect each other 24/7. If you want to hold back on sex whit marage that's fin, but showing you care and love a person whit a Hug/small Kiss is not wrong in this sens.

Last tip I'm not saying you should test whit a new ever week, but when you find the one and you feel it in you heart, take small steps, get to know each other and show you care, show you want here in you life just as you wish to hold God there, because you not complete before you have here, and this is a better path then marriage whit not understanding really who she/he is, and then ending up whit divorcees and breaking you word that you staded inform of God

well just my tugths on it, and a Tip from someone that fund his soul-mate, and someone that is used to the same culture of Dating (bad word for the Norwegian way but its the best choice in English)